How to Overcome Anxiety and Depression, Mindset Explained in 3 Steps.

explaining mindset required for overcoming anxiety and depression. It took me five long years living that life, but I’m proud to say I’ve come out stronger by overcoming anxiety and depression on the other side. It’s easy to say that five years isn’t such a long time, but for some people, mental health struggles can feel overwhelming and never-ending. When PTSD, anxiety, or clinical depression are officially diagnosed, doctors often have to rely on experimentation to help their patients.

people who undergo treatment for Anxiety or Depression, I would say they are just under legal human experimentation

well, that is a bold claim! how can you say that!? you may ask! I have reasons backed up having first hand experience. I would really love to share the perspective of mindset i required to get out of such a phase of depressed life early and also undergo such medical trials by different opinions of doctors for depression and anxiety.

i am gonna introduce the mindset with following line

The concept of changing thought/making decisions is very easy but making it a reality is really hard

well, you may say we already knew that. well if you knew it, you didn’t see it through? let me explain with an example. I’ve seen many people diagnosed with clinical depression due to loss of a person, failure of relationships, hard breakups or getting cheated on, work pressure etc. Here there are Three key factors that come into play. i would name them like..

1. The Burden of Past – burden of muscle memory
2. The Iron cage – inescapable tangled life
3. A Miscarriage – a weave on unsatisfied expectations

The Burden of Past – burden of muscle memory

Let’s talk about The Burden of Past with an example. Here, there is a man who loved a woman to the moon and back, he found out that she was cheating all the time. He confronted her with the guy she is cheating with and it broke his heart. He spoke to her, she was sorry and promised to never do it again and he mended things with her with some ground rules (I know it’s stupid), she is breaking the rules again and again only to see her cheating with another guy. Now he is trying hard to make her come to senses how to lead a successful relationship.

Nothing worked, one fine day he decided to leave her for good and move on, he left her, blocked her everywhere wishing here to be happy the way she wanted to live her life. but he didn’t realise that the phase of depression already kicked into him.

In this story he took the decision in a split second to leave her and wish to end this endless heart ache forever. It was well planned, well articulated, and well versed in his mind a thousand times and over. He knew exactly what he was doing and he did it. But, to see himself that his life went a thousand times more painful to hell.

He slipped into depression and he went though experimentation from different doctors with medicines that hit central nervous system to ease anxiety to medicines that hit brain that numbs him down to point he got slur speech. He spent his time just sleeping dead, eyes fluttering showing signs that he’s alive.

Medicines for anxiety and depression are doing their job along with side effects which add more medicine experimenting that is snowballing his systems with pumped chemicals only to get worse. I didn’t want to share how worse he got, after a few years he got back on his feet. Many thought its medicines that did wonders helped him get back on foot. Nope, it is his internal enlightenment of thought how to get better each day made him get out of such hell. To put into simple terms

making a decision in split second, mind can accept things but body cannot!

in the above example, he made a decision. But, while making decisions.. mind is conscious but body is not. He used to have a routine with his love. Starting from good morning text to sharing every little detail of his life, the experiences and memories of all senses that can perceive a reality. Reality he lived to smell, touch, hear, see and taste with her, till the good night text to sleep together. In a split second after making a decision to abandon all that to never be the same. His body can’t give up the routine, but chose the route to be stubborn and demand for it anyway, all lead to depression.

The body is habituated to a routine, even though his mind can accept it, his body cannot. This elevated his pain to extremes. Just like one is addicted to a drug and can’t live without it. What mindset did he have to get out of this mess? well, he had to replace his old routines with a new one. one thing at a time. It started with replacing that good morning text and follow up chat to an hour with mindless running until he got exhausted. Replacing sense deprived things with spirituality, enlightenment, food, music, exercise and helping the needy.

Here, replacing things need not be sudden. If you change your routine entirely from the very next day, you will be living a completely fake life only to scar further.

There is also a bad side of life to fulfill his deprived senses and body suffering from depression. He could hold a cigarette, alcohol or addict to porn or make things worse to find a rebound only to destroy another woman’s life. This will not only ruin his life but also his health and everything forever! there’s more to it here, but I will explain further in the next Mindset blog posts.

The Iron cage – inescapable tangled life

Here, people who are under work pressure and can’t quit, people who are married to the wrong person and have to endure that relationship for the sake of society and family, people who have to stay in terms with family at cost of mental health unable to achieve things and live a life they wanted to often slip into depression or suffer from anxiety without their knowing.

There is a simple example where many can relate to. I know a person who recently started his career, he belongs to middle class family, he had to stay with his parents taking care of them. His thoughts were big, Likewise his wish list too. He was obsessed with new technology, he wanted to experience and live that life. For the little salary he made thinking his job would support, he set up term plans and Loans to live a life he wished to live.

He was paying back what he borrowed, days went by and his work life became worse.. there is no balance in work and life. He is being exploited with additional work hours till midnight ruining his health. He suddenly couldn’t quit or make a request or put up to management that he is being exploited. Any move he makes will worsen his conditions further financially for him and family. Until debts are cleared he couldn’t make any move. He slipped into depression, he came to the point he couldn’t enjoy the very things he bought taking loans.

so what’s the take here? Mindset, if we have nothing at hand will always strive for at least minimum supply of basic needs to the end of the day. If we have a surplus of money, there is no debate. But here being in the middle ground having the mindset of having nothing and being thankful for basic needs will help him live a better life. But, what mindset he should have once he is already entangled in these situations?

1. Accepting the fact you had Nothing at Hand and living a life just basic needs met.
2. understanding that it is okay for people to know that you can’t afford things like before.
3. understanding the ground reality of your place in society being some perks stripped out of your life to repay loans.
4. it is okay for people around you to think that you are broke and working hard to get back
5. remembering the financial decisions you made before and never to make them again

There is a bad side to it again. people who are broke go on making more debts, go for unusual ways of making money like crime, betting etc will make your life much worse strengthening the iron cage around you that you cannot escape forever. Again it’s just the mindset and matter of choices you make in your life that makes a real positive difference in life!

This can be applicable to people who are stuck in relationships that they don’t want to break due to societal or family pressures, losing confidence and self worth. Accepting the fact that you are entangled in situations instead of fighting inside will ease you, checking yourself if you are able to live basic life inside that entangled life will give you a sigh of relief. If not, it is something to do with your mindset asking yourself..

“why are you letting yourself entangled more!?”

journal your reasons, if they are worth the life you are living. sometimes hard decisions are necessary. They will hurt some, for that cost you get to live!

A Miscarriage – a weave on unsatisfied expectations

here, things like broken promises, cheating financially/professionally, relationships where expectations are never met which leads to an unsuccessful outcome of something planned. This is the most common form people experience in their daily lives from minute to grand scale. By these situations one may be disappointed. Maybe his favourite team lose in his favourite sport and he is disappointed?

taking this to the grand scale of things like, his own friend cheating him in his partnered company and kicking out without sharing equity, or losing everything that he had in invested stock market crash. There are many live instances where people give up and even commit suicide. Circumstances are so common that in everyone’s life, there is at least one such instance made them have sleepless nights depressed and anxious.

There is only one way to come out of a miscarriage. SEEK HELP!

I know, you might ask I was cheated by someone, how can I trust another for help again? see, weirdly that is the only solution for most situations, this will also make you realise.. after all the world is not so bad, realise there is hope and good people in it too. Seek help to fight back a financial fraud, seek help to get back lost money, seek help to fight with law and order, seek help to cope up, seek help!

If you wish to live at peace while all this is happening, I would remind you of the karma yoga from Bhagavat Gita saying never get attached to the outcome, just follow dharma, just do your thing.

here’s an interesting take if you worry about the future constantly. there are only two things to consider here

1. you knew the future
2. you don’t know the future

if you knew future, what is about to happen, HOW? (no human can know, they can only predict)

if you don’t know the future, why worry about the things you absolutely have no control?

I assume, I believe, I think etc are just filler arcs in your life that will make you more worried!

I think this post will make you think about choices you made, you will make at present and further in your life. Hope you learnt something out of this! this is not over yet! will come back with more.. bookmark this website.. I haven’t set up a newsletter yet. I will do it soon! as always be mindful, enhance your living, stay safe and have a great day ahead!

From ~yashwanth patta ~